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Wednesday, May 16

Grief and its stages

They say grief occurs in 5 stages

First, Denial: "I feel fine."; "I am ok" ; "I dont need anyone" ; "I can live without..."


Second, Anger: "Why me? It's not fair!"; "How can this happen to me?"; '"Who is to blame? When you reach this stage you realize that denial cant last long. You have times of heightened rage and anger. You get angr with yourself, with people around you, especially those you are very close towards.


Third, Bargaining: "If only...", this is the hope stage. Where you look for if onlys. A negotitation with the higher power and the past


Fourth, Depression: "I am So Sad". "I just wish time would stop now, I want to not go anywhere"Depression could be referred to as the dress rehearsal for the 'aftermath'. It is a kind of acceptance with emotional attachment. It's natural to feel sadness, regret, fear, and uncertainty when going through this stage. Feeling those emotions shows that the person has begun to accept the situation.


Fifth, Acceptance:"It's going to be okay."; "I can't fight it, I may as well prepare for it."
In this last stage, individuals begin to come to terms with the fact that it all comes to an end. Its part of the cycle and that they'll move on. This stage varies according to the person's situation. People dying can enter this stage a long time before the people they leave behind, who must pass through their own individual stages of dealing with the grief.

Read about K├╝bler-Ross model called 'Five Stages Of Grief.' A really wonderful theory. She believes that these are more or less the common stages of grief. Someone who has lost someone, or broken up, or is battling a disease and so on does go through these stages. However, they dont have to be in the same chronological order. Read more on Wikipedia or just buy her book called "On death and dying." Its worth It!